I am extremely confused by people and hope you can help me make some sense out of this. During both of my pregnancies, I was always so amazed at how perfect strangers would offer to help me. They held doors, let me go ahead in line, grabbed by grocery bags, and offered to help me every step I took. I was PREGNANT, not incapable. In fact, during my first pregnancy with my son, I felt incredible and had a great deal of energy. Now, before you criticize me for being ungrateful, let me stress that I was always very touched by this outreach.
What confuses me is that when I was perfectly capable of taking care of myself, these people offered to do everything for me. Yet, when I am trying to get into the doors of a local store with a car seat in each hand and a diaper bag the size of a medium suitcase over my shoulder, people are letting the door slam in my face. When I'm carrying two packages out of the post office with a toddler crying beside me and those same two carseats, no one offers to get the door or carry the package. In fact, instead they shoot me dirty glances because of the crying toddler. When I'm in line for a table at Panera with my tray of food, a toddler, a double stroller, and that monstrous diaper bag, a lady dressed in a fancy suit cuts in front of me and beats me to the only available table. Obviously, she was much more important than me and couldn't have realized my very small window of time to eat without all three kids going nuts.
WHAT?!!?!?!
Why did I get smiles and sweet looks when I was pregnant - yet looks of annoyance once those babies were actually born?
Why am I cute and vulnerable when I'm pregnant, but I seem to have cooties once I have kids?
The vagaries of the human species is more and more incomprehensible as time goes on. In other words I have no answer.
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